To the potential parents and parents to be,please read this to know the right thing to do and what not to d0.This article is an advice to parents from one of Nigerian Leading Gospel Singer- Mike Abdul
A friend sent me this and i felt it is worth sharing even though it might not be an answer to masturbation entirely.I counseled a young guy who was addicted to masturbation.He told me he can’t do without masturbating.
One thing that struck me in his confession was when he said, ”my mum caused all this for me”. Curiosity got hold of me & I asked him, how? He said; he started masturbating since when he was 4 years old. ‘ my mum dresses up before me, I am used to seeing her nakedness. I am not moved to have sex with her but I always long to see mature ladies naked just the way I always see my mum dressing up naked before me. I still remember seeing her nakedness regularly till I was 8 years & my dad used to shout at her, ‘send this boy out before you dress…’ , but my mum would always reply by saying, ‘will my son sleep with me? Stop planting evil thoughts in his heart’.
“Anytime I see my mum’s naked body, I long to see ladies’ naked body, I had sex at age 10 and till now I am not free from sex& heavy pornography &masturbation…”Dear parents, I hope you are not guilty of this? You are dressing up before your 2 years son/ daughter& you say he/she doesn’t know anything yet? Some couples will be having sex when their 2 year old child will be in the room with them & they feel like, he can only see, he can’t understand.
Parents,that child does not need to understand. Seeing your nakedness or seeing you and your spouse making love is enough to plant abnormal sexual fantasies and urge in that child. Why will you destroy your own children with your own carelessness? Don’t let your children see your nakedness. Don’t make love in the presence of your child no matter the age. The scene sticks to the memory& they may want to explore & experiment what they are seeing. Stopping making home-made ‘sex clips or video’ for your children to be watching. Mummy, sit properly. Stop sitting as if you are in the labour room; parting your legs and your son seeing your inner thigh & pant. Be careful! Daddy, don’t wear boxers at home such that when you sit down your ‘thing’ would be dangling for your daughter to see. There are things you should not showcase to your children which should be left private to your spouses.
From : Mike Abdul